Germans and Americans: surprisingly similar in many ways…and completely different in others. I’ve already covered several of the major cultural differences on this blog; from pay toilets and post-apocalyptic Sundays, to Christmas markets and produce-themed races.
Here are a few more in no particular order.
You Can’t Do that on (American) Television
Germans (and Europeans in general) are much more comfortable than Americans when it comes to nudity and sex. It’s not unheard of for a show on public TV in Germany to feature a topless woman as early as 9PM.
Of course, nudity isn’t always sexual in nature on German TV; sometimes it’s educational or just…there. There was a program recently about the 90’s that had a segment with topless women dancing on a float through Berlin. They used this footage as the opening for all three parts of the documentary. That would have never happened on American TV; their chests would have been censored in some way…or the footage would have been completely left out.
Censorship laws in America are weaker than they were when I was growing up in the late 90’s/early 2000’s. Sure, you might see the occasional bare butt on American TV now; that’s nothing compared to all of the naked old men I’ve unwillingly seen because of Tatort. While full-frontal male nudity is verboten on American TV, the same cannot be said about Germany.
Obviously, I’m not including premium stations like HBO and Showtime when I refer to American TV shows and censorship. They are exempt from these regulations because they are subscription services. If you’d like even more information about what’s not allowed on American TV, you might find this worth a read.
Free Meat for Kids
A former coworker told me that kids receive free samples at meat counters/delis in Germany. I’ve never actually gotten close enough to a meat counter to witness this phenomenon. I went vegetarian three months after moving here, and then vegan a little over a year later.
In order to confirm this was, in fact, a universal German experience, I decided to ask on Twitter. I received replies from Germans and expats all across Germany, confirming that this is most definitely A Thing.
American kids do not get free meat samples; at least, not that I’m aware of. However, American kids do “traditionally” get free suckers (lollipops) at the bank. Sometimes, even if mom and dad are using the drive-up ATM.
You Say Goodbye, And I Say Hello
When I taught English, I would usually begin my classes by asking students what they did over the weekend. Instead of telling me a fun story about hiking or a day trip to a nearby city, one student decided to tell me about…a trip to the grocery store. He remembered our discussion about small talk the previous week, and was very excited to tell me about his American Experience™. A woman had tried to chat with him in the check-out lane.
I asked him what he did, and he said very matter-of-factly, “I told her: I don’t want to talk to you. Please be quiet.”
So then I asked him if he thought he’d been a little rude, and he said no. Of course not. The other students agreed. If anything, she was the one being rude.
You see, Germans rarely make small talk and they definitely don’t make small talk with strangers.
Knowing this, you might be surprised to find out that there is one place in Germany where you are expected to talk to strangers; or, at least, acknowledge they exist.
If you’re sent to a waiting room in Germany, make sure you say hello when you enter and goodbye when you leave. Everyone will sound annoyed when they grumble back their reply, but trust me; the offended looks you’ll receive if you don’t do this will be much worse.
You’re Doing that Wrong
In America, you’re expected to mind your own business while out in public. Did you just see someone cross the street at a red light? Nope! And if you did…you still didn’t.
Unless someone’s “bad” behavior affects you personally, or you see it bothering someone else, you are supposed to just look the other way.
Germans take a different approach. If you’re doing something “wrong” in public, someone is going to say something. It’s usually someone over the age of 40, but not always. A teenage girl once yelled at me for crossing the street at a red light, even though there were no cars in sight.
My first experience with German “correcting culture” happened within my first few months here. A man at the grocery store took it upon himself to rearrange my soda bottles on the check-out lane belt. I had them laying horizontally, causing them to roll slightly whenever the belt would move. Without asking, he placed them diagonally and said, “much better” with a confident nod of his head. I wanted to be annoyed, but…he was right. It was, in fact, much better.
If you’d like to read a more thorough take from a Brit whose endured this more often than myself, check out Nic Houghton’s post about German correcting culture at 40% German.
Would You Like Some Extra Germs with That?
Many states in America have laws stating that food service workers have to wear gloves when handling and preparing food.
At a German Christmas market a few years ago, I noticed that the people handling food weren’t wearing gloves. After that, I began looking more closely at the people preparing food in places like the mall or fast food places, where you can watch them make your food. There was nary a glove in sight.
Initially, I found this pretty disgusting; I also became convinced this was why Germans seemed to be ill more often than my friends and family back home. My husband was quick to point out that it probably has more to do with compulsive hand-shaking in German offices.
He also pointed out that wearing gloves might make some food service people in America think they don’t have to wash their hands as often. And who knows what else they touched while wearing the gloves?
Perhaps gloves aren’t as integral to sanitary food service as I first thought.